As someone who struggles with mental health I find that labels serve only to discredit and diminish our feelings. I hate feeling like I am less than, almost as much as I hate being fed false encouragements like
“Just put on some pants and come outside”
“Maybe if you throw on some mascara and go see some people”
“Don’t let your negative insides reflect your outsides.”
I could scream. So instead of countering with something defensive and combative I’ve resolved to point out my astute fashion sense with sad girl style.
Every girl has that pair of sweats. This is not to negate the importance of some soft leggings. As for those girls who talk about wearing some comfy jeans, you’re lying. There’s nothing more to say about this. Jeans may as well be a girdle. Anyway, if you often fight the dementors of depression and you simultaneously wonder “how could I make this work for me?” I have just steps…
- Those pants… put them on. The comfy pants with the forgiving waist that feel both light and warming all at the same time. If material is too much contact pants are not necessary to make this look work.
- That Sweater… it’s tough to live in Florida because my seasonal depression is triggered by sunshine. There is nothing worse than trying to be sad when its 87 degree without a cloud in the sky. I have to turn my house into a dark chilly cave to thoroughly enjoy my depression.
- Hair… this will greatly depend on the type and length, but I find that a very messy bun is helpful in maintaining your idgaf attitude whilst keeping the hair out of your crying eyes. Also functional for binge eating and creative writing.
- Make up…you don’t need this. Not for depression fashion not for day to day life.
- Fingernail polish… chip away at it like your negative self-talk chips away at your hopes and dreams.
- Blankets … you may think this does not count as fashion, but you would be very wrong my friend. In fact, the fluffy blanket is the most essential accessory we have in our arsenal. We need softness and comfort however it must be light and small enough to come with us on journeys to the fridge or bathroom.
Once you’ve mastered this style, turn on that mindless show, listen to that sad indie rock, draw pictures of happier times. Feel the shit out of that sadness. Make it part of you. Own your sad and disallow other who would try to dress you sensibly. Sad girl style is less of a fashion statement and more of an announcement; it screams “emotions in progress, allow me my space.” If you stick with these 6 steps I assure comfort and expedited healing.